"You never followed me back on instagram/Twitter!!" Ya that wasn’t an accident.

"You need to stop blasting your music so loud you can’t even hear me" ya that’s the goal

why does that post have more than 0 notes it was supposed to be one of those personal posts that i end up deleting later


i can’t tell you how many times i’ve spoken up about harassment only to be told to “learn to take a compliment”.  
since when do “compliments” intrude on my space?  what kind of “compliment” makes a person feel unsafe or threatened?
harassment isn’t a compliment.  know the difference.

I’m bored, in someone else’s bed, listening to old music & taking lazy, half-assed selfies of myself.


I think what a lot of people need to realise is that most doctors don’t actually give a shit about helping people.

I went to a grammar school for a few years (before I dropped out lmao) and they really encouraged people to go into medicine because it’s seen as a respectable, well-paying profession. Most of the people who wanted to be doctors wanted to do it for the money and the title, not because they were striving to help sick people.

There are some good doctors, there are some helpful doctors, but the majority do it out of obligation, not out of a need to help people, which is pretty fucked up. 

And a lot of people seem to think that doctors are unquestionable sources of information, which is a really dangerous attitude to have. People attack self-diagnosers because they haven’t had years of medical training, which is not only really classist and ableist but also kind of laughable because even with their expensive special ~medical training~ doctors get shit wrong all the time. But it seems people would rather attack sick ignored teens than rich abusive, negligent doctors.

Please stop acting like people have to have a piece of paper from some rich prick to be disabled. And this applies to neurodivergent people as well, I just talked mostly about sickness because my own bad experiences with doctor were regarding my illness.


  • Periods aren’t a big deal for some people
  • Periods are extremely disabling for some people
  • Pain is subjective and it’s different for everyone
  • Stop arguing about this

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Lolita is sexual. Literally. The definition of lolita is a sexually attractive adolescent girl. It's not just a cute 'kawaii' fashion statement. You can't sexualise something that is already sexual by default.





Wrong, wrong, and wrong. Literally. If I got a dollar for every person who thought this because they couldn’t be assed to do their research, I’d be a happy girl indeed.

Lolita is a book written by Vladimir Nabokov about a girl named Dolores Haze, but her nickname is Lolita. The protagonist of Lolita falls in love with Dolores despite him being 42 and her being 12. He is a pedophile who abuses, rapes and takes sexual advantage of her after becoming her stepfather.

Lolita FASHION is something else entirely. Lolita FASHION is a fashion trend that started in Harajuku, inspired by victorian fashion, victorian dolls, sailor dresses and femininity, and most of all, self-expression. It has NOTHING to do with the book by the same name. The only thing they share is their name. Lolita FASHION has nothing to do with sex, because it’s just that; A FASHION. 

Lolita is a term misguided and misinformed people (such as yourself) use about attractive girls when, in truth, it stems from a book about a pedophile rapist.

Do your research before you try to start a discussion on something you have no clue about. There is absolutely no reason for you to be this much of an arrogant know-it-all when you haven’t even done the research to back up your arguments. Don’t be overconfident before you’re 100% certain that you’re right. 

Can I just add a thing here

When my mum heard about / discovered that this weird fashion I started trying to wear at 16 was called “lolita,” she had a miniature heart attack. She thought I didn’t understand that that word was used in the wrong context often. She thought that the fashion was intended to be sexual and that I was too naive to understand that, and that I just took it to be a cute fashion. Here’s the thing tho: it IS just a cute fashion. And after explaining this, she was then worried that other gross people would sexualise me against my will or target me and therefore I shouldn’t be wearing it.

Wrong. It is other people’s fault for sexualising me, not mine. It is never my fault, if I am sexualised against my will. It is never anybody’s fault.

Especially when, personally, I liked the idea of lolita because it was so darn sweet and elegant, and in my opinion, so not-sexually-charged in a world that shoved sex in my face every day. It was a breath of fresh air. I’ve had more sexual connotations associated with me when I was fucking 12 and wore a tank top and shorts to grade 7 orientation on a hot summers day and everyone who didn’t know my name called me ~the girl with the boobs~ for two years straight. Like ????

And then we fast forward to when I met my dad’s partner and she heard about lolita and had a minature heart attack because, in juxtaposition to my mum, it was so adorable, she couldn’t believe it. In her native culture, Lolita was a nickname for Dolores and had little-to-no sexual connotations with it. She even, if my memory serves me right, mentioned that lolita or dolly was just something you called sweet young girls. So the word was really fitting and it was all just so sweet and cute. She even pronounces it with a Spanish accent despite having an Australian accent because that’s what you do with totally native words.

So I’m emphasising a cultural difference here.

And here’s my thing, here’s a bit of TL;DR:

Have pedophiles and misogynist pigs who sexualise young girls seriously infiltrated every aspect of our society that it is somehow more fucking plausible that girls who want to dress in cute and feminine fashion are doing so because they want to be sexualised? Or that they should expect to be sexualised? Is that what people are saying now? That girls cannot take charge over their lives and their aesthetic for one god damned second before being, yet again, sexualised in every aspect of their being?

I don’t want to use ‘you’re damned if you do, and damned if you don’t’ but hey, that’s all I can muster up right now because I feel like I’m on a different fricking planet.

And, as a not-so-subtle side note, if you don’t think mainstream porn and it’s culture has something to do with this, you are dead wrong.

Amazing new concept: If girls want to be sexual, they can be sexual. If they don’t, they don’t. Either fucking way it is impossible to win when mainstream society oversexualises young girls and their fashion in an ~adult way~ and if you somehow take a different path you’re fetishised as an ~innocent sex nymph doll~ like where the fuck do we draw the line?

I will tell you where we draw the god damned line: where ever the fuck the girl in question draws her own m o t h er fricking line.


Thank you for writing this. I thought they were the same thing and I was really disturbed so I’m REALLY glad to learn that the fashion and the book are not related at all, whew. Also gross men stop it and go away.

holy mother of Jesus PREACH IT MINA

omg yesterday when i was with my boyfriend we got into a conversation about league of legends and he mentioned how there are actually a ton of girls in league, if not more girls than guys and i told him how im skeptical believing that because i read this thing on tumblr about how people see 1/3 of women in a room or whatever as being equal to men and see 50% women and 50% men and as there being a majority women, and he went and counted all the female league characters and i did the math and it was 40/120 like literally 33% women

yesterday when i was getting off this shuttle bus to get on the metro train i got on this long escalator and when i was 3/4 of the way down it shut off and the places was like pitch black except for some lights at the bottom and i was nopeing so hard then when i had to get back on that long ass escalator at the end of the day i got so scared  and when i reached the top i swear i was shaking so hard i was gonna start crying it was 2spoopy4me

i think that if i could ask my future self for advice all she would have to say is “Learn ALL the kpop dances while you can because good kpop songs are gonna keep coming out and soon your list is gonna get too backed up”